Yoni is the Sanskrit word for vagina and, loosely translated it means “the sacred space.” Tantric philosophy approaches the vagina from a place of love, respect and honouring the woman. While yoni massage is both sensual and pleasurable, the intent is not to bring the woman to complete orgasm but to awaken within her an awareness of her own sexuality and trust.
Benefits from Yoni Massage?
Many women have internalised trauma and disconnect in their bodies around their sexuality.
Yoni massage helps these women learn to trust again and empowers them to regain control over their own sexuality and vagina. Even outside of sexual trauma, any woman can benefit from a yoni massage, regardless of sexual history. Learning how to get in touch with your own arousal and learning how to trust your partners with your most intimate of spaces, is very beneficial.
Men also benefit by learning how to touch women in a giving and loving way.
Orgasm is indeed a welcome benefit, but it is not the focus of the yoni massage. The reason? Because it then becomes about the orgasm and not about your sensual awakening. If the massage has a goal, then massage will focus more on that goal and not every second of awakening, pleasure, breathing, etc.
There is also the issue of patience. If orgasm becomes the goal, you may rush the process. The whole point of the yoni massage is to experience the journey, however long it takes, together.
The yoni massage in done in a comfortable and safe space. The room will be warm enough to be comfortably naked, and the area will be free from distractions and interruptions, with soft relaxing music.
Before beginning, we start with simple breathing exercises to relax and focus the breath. The giver should start the massage by first massaging other areas of the woman’s body, giving her time to relax. Initiate all touch with gentle, loving intent.
A yoni massage generally lasts a couple of hours, at the end of which, you may feel a range of emotional and physical sensations and you will indeed need time to decompress from, and integrate, the experience.